“Be willing to dare different things and try different things. Comfort zone and rut are synonymous.  There is nothing wrong with being comfortable, but when you get stuck in a comfort zone you are in a rut.”
Red Feather

Who knew that stepping into your dreams could be so scary? Shouldn’t it be delight-filled and joyous? Sure, let’s go with that. Really though, what’s up with all this fear coming up?

I was rearranging my vision board, removing what I’ve already created and making it all look attractive when I felt my heart start to race. It’s an uncomfortable, out of breath feeling.  I had to stop looking at my vision board, sit down and breathe, pray and tap until shortly it returned to normal rhythm.

That happens sometimes when I’m feeling stressed. What? My dreams are stressing me out?

Pushing the envelope, stepping out of your comfort zone can be frightening. Yet, living solely within your comfort zone is living in a rut. There is no soul growth in your comfort zone, there is only rest and eventually stagnation. I know this, I’ve tried it. I like my comfort. Obviously so or stepping out of my comfort zone wouldn’t be so stressful.

Am I going to let my fear stop me? No, but I can support myself. That part of me that finds it so scary to move forward, put myself out there, push the envelope, and grow myself, is trying to protect me.

“Doesn’t it feel better to stay small and hidden?” My Inner Child asks me in her piping Inner Child voice. “Why don’t you stay safe and comfortable and just keep doing it the way you’ve been doing it? That’s worked hasn’t it?” She is doing her level best to keep me safely in my comfort zone, and here I am pushing us out with all my manifesting might.

Does this feel familiar?

​We can reassure that child within even as we move forward. We can thank them for keeping us safe, and lovingly tell them that we will take good care of them as we move forward together.

A fun way to do this is by inviting your Inner Child to a tea party!  Check out Your Spiritual Toolbox for how.

“Let go of what you think you know. Something amazing happens when you let God and trust.”
Tammy L. Kubasko
 
God’s timing is not always our timing. The thing is, it can be difficult to trust in God’s timing.

I used to visit a care facility for Alzheimer’s and dementia residents each week with my dog, Goldie. The folks we visited with sat or walked about in the living room area of the buildings and enjoyed patting Goldie and talking about the dogs they had when they were young. Even many of those that were non-verbal still seemed to enjoy looking at her and touching her soft fur.

One day, there was a new patient. He was disoriented and upset, calling for help. A very elderly gentleman, he wanted nothing to do with Goldie or me, and continued desperately calling for help. When staff responded, he just kept saying, “Help! I need help! I need to get out of here. I don’t know what to do.” My heart went out to him. I prayed for him to have the support he needed and feel peace.

I found his distress upsetting. Yet, I’ve discovered that when I have an experience that triggers me like that, it's an opportunity for healing and learning.

That night I had a dream in which I woke up in a small airport waiting room. I was disoriented, not knowing how I got there, and anxious because I knew I was there to catch a flight but didn’t know what flight to get on. What if they called my flight and I missed it? I needed help. I didn’t know how to help myself, and I didn’t know if others could help me. It was a frightening dream.

Still, it gave me insight into how the new patient in the care facility was feeling. For him, he was in a strange, public place. He didn’t know where he was going or when he would go home. The bewildered gentleman didn’t even remember how he got to that place. He just woke up there. It was all terribly upsetting to him. He felt so helpless.

It was all in God’s hands.

How many of us are in similar circumstances, too anxious to trust God’s timing? Thinking that we are in charge, that we should take control and force things to happen, and afraid because we don’t know what to do or how to do it. Or, even more difficult, we are unwilling to surrender to God’s timing and so are in a constant struggle against it?

What if we could ask God for what we want and then surrender all else? What if our job is to show up each day and allow God to move in our lives, guiding us to what we need to do to go where we want to go? Wouldn’t that be peaceful? Wouldn’t that be a relief?

What is required is trust in God’s timing. Trust that God will show up for us. Trust that God will make the signs clear enough that we are able to interpret them and know how to go where we want to go. Trust that we are worthy in God’s eyes to receive what it is that we want.

I’ve had the idea that I’ve somehow got to make what I want happen, forcing the energy along through my focused, positive attention.

The word ‘forced’ here is the key. The need to force indicates fear.

There is no forcing with allowing, there is only surrender, releasing to God, to our Higher Selves, and trusting.

As I wrote this my daughter called saying that whenever I was ready, she could start upcoming web site changes from the road. This is part of what I’ve chosen to manifest. I expected to start when she got back home in two weeks. Yet, here she was saying that she was inspired to start right now. She's a tuned in gal. 

God’s timing is not our timing, sometimes it’s even sooner than we expect!  

“One of the key things for manifesting is to have the end result in mind. If you want to create something see it complete and then walk backwards. See it, feel it, have the experience of how it feels in the sentient body, because if you see it complete you will feel it complete. What does that mean? It is already in the wave.  
Energy has patterns, it is either particles or waves. Particles are the dense energy in physical form. Waves are in thought form, they are not yet in this reality. Everything begins with a thought that is inserted into the waves, and then becomes a reality.
When you see something complete and whole in your mind’s eye and you see it in the waves, that means somewhere in the Universe you have created it. Now it is just about bringing it into the particles.”
 - Red Feather

It is that last sentence, “Now it is just about bringing it into the particles,” that is the clincher, at least for me. I have been working with my affirmations and my vision board for a while now. I’ve seen movement.

Money for the weekend workshop I wanted to attend showed up just in time. I went on a wonderful sacred journey to Iceland.  Ideas for the blog have been pouring in.

I’ve been feeling happy and energized, excited about all I’m creating in my life. I’ve been feeling grateful and inspired.

According to Abraham-Hicks that’s a good start. 
“Let your alignment (with Well-Being) be first and foremost, and let everything else be secondary. And not only will you have an eternally joyous journey, but everything you have ever imagined will flow effortlessly into your experience. There is nothing you cannot be or do or have—but your dominant intent is to be joyful. The doing and the having will come into alignment once you get that one down.”

Still, I get to feeling impatient! Do you? It’s as if I can feel everything I want about to pop into reality. I can almost taste it. Each of my goals/intentions becoming more and more real to me.

Abraham-Hicks has this to say about that,
“When it feels like the next logical step – then it comes right in. So your work, as you stand in the absence of something wanted is to pretend it, to imagine it, to become so familiar with the essence of what it would feel like when it comes, that even though it hasn’t come, you still feel good.”

Impatience in manifesting is motivated by fear, fear that we won’t be able to manifest what we intend. That fear puts the brakes on what we want to manifest. It does so because the fear that we won’t be able to manifest what we want is a very different energy than trusting that we will manifest what we want.

When we’re feeling impatient we’re sending a vibration of fear out to the Universe. When we do that, we’re tuned to a very different frequency than what it is that we want.

What can we do about that?

We allow ourselves to delight in the journey just as much as the destination. It is absolutely possible to do so.

When you are working toward a much-desired goal, whether it be attending a special workshop, replacing the windows in your house, taking that trip out West, writing a book, whatever it is, each day you show up and take steps one at a time toward your goal. Then you trust and release the outcome to the Universe.

You allow yourself to enjoy the whole process from the initial intent, the researching and planning, taking whatever action steps you can each day and imagining how good you will feel as you have achieved your goal. The whole journey can be fun. It can be a delight.

After all, isn’t life more about the journey than the destination? Why not enjoy the journey?

"When you give up your intoxication of the manifestation and you let the conjuring of the emotion be the manifestation that you're looking for, then you have accomplished instant manifestation.

And you say: 'but what about the car, what about the new lover, what about the improved health?' And we say: if you make your emotion conditional upon it coming, it can’t come if your emotion is tied to it.

We have to convince you that the manifestation doesn't matter, before the manifestation can happen. What you want is the feeling of it, and when you find the feeling of it, the grid will fill in with the specifics of it. But if the specifics of it are so important that you're all bent out of shape because the specifics of it haven't filled in yet, then you don't find the vibrational feeling place of it. Then the grid doesn't fill in. Isn't that interesting? You've got to find the feeling of it, and when you find the feeling of it, then it's the next logical step."
-Abraham-Hicks

So, our job is to show up each day. Have fun with the imagining process. Enjoy the feeling of our affirmations, love our vision boards, delight in the action steps we take each day toward our goal.  

Then our subconscious, conscious and Higher Self are in alignment. Our energy is attuned to what it is we intend. The ‘particles’ fall into place. Our intuition guides us to what we need to do along the way. The ‘grid’ is filled in, and we’re living what we have intended.

“Every aspect of your life is anchored energetically in your living space.”
Karen Kingston, Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui
 
I look around as I sit in the chair in my writing office to start today’s writing and am struck by how I have made space in my life for my dreams. My vision board hangs upon the wall. Each day I print out my writing efforts so that I can hold the reality of my dream in my hands. It’s taken me many years to allow myself this. Hopefully, it won’t take you so long.

Feng Shui, the art of designing one’s house, room, car, even desk, for optimal energy flow, teaches us that what we create in our homes is what we will create in our lives. If there is no space in your home for your dreams, how will you create space in your life for your dreams?

Giving yourself daily reminders in the physical form of an inviting creation space and a beautiful vision board keep your goals in the forefront of your conscious and subconscious mind.

Seeing these you are more likely to be attracted to taking regular action steps toward your dreams. Perhaps prayer and affirmations keeping your mind focused upon where you want to go.

Day by day, step by step, doing your part to create your dream.

Giving yourself a dedicated physical space communicates to your subconscious mind that you mean it, you intend to manifest your dreams.

As you create the physical space in your home in which to anchor your dreams you create the energetic space  for your dreams to become your life.