Difficult Decision to Make?

“Wait on God’s timing and you’ll have a better result. Rushing things will do no good. Have patience and trust that everything will work out.”
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If I have an uncomfortable or difficult  decision to make, my usual response is to get it off my plate as quickly as possible. It’s unappetizing and I don’t want it sitting there looking at me any longer than necessary. I want to deal with it and get it over with because I’m usually fearful about the outcome of whatever I decide.

Because I feel fear about the decision, I close my heart.

Usually this comes up for me when I have a decision to make in which I’m afraid someone I care about will be angry with me. I’m a people-pleaser by nature and this kind of decision is hard for me.

Worse yet is a decision which I’m afraid will hurt someone else’s feelings, or make them feel bad. That’s a real toughie.

The problem is, when we make decisions from a place of fear what most often returns to us is the feared outcome. Fear returns fear, then we become even more fearful as the cycle of fear continues.

What’s more, a heart closed by fear communicates fear, which is responded to by others with fear.

There is a better way. It is the path of Grace.

This may seem obvious to those who are not all wrapped up in worrying about what other’s think. It is not always obvious to me and I often forget to allow myself this gentle path as I stumble through the rocks of fear.

The path of Grace is simply to ASK for guidance and WAIT, keeping your heart open.

This path makes so much sense. We are turning to that part of ourselves that sees the big picture.

Our small selves see only a very small portion of whatever the situation is, and we see even that through our personal filters. We may or may not know the truth of the situation, we just assume we do.

When we ask for guidance and wait for an answer, we call on the huge resource that Spirit provides us, just for the asking.

The answers may come in any number of ways.

Recently I had two decisions to make that I found difficult. I was afraid that outcomes might result in hurting friends, or not honoring myself. They felt like no-win situations. I didn’t know what to do and was tempted to make fast decisions, getting them off my plate right away.

Instead, I took a deep breath and remembered the path of Grace. I asked for guidance and waited.

The guidance came gently over the next few days. Little hints piling up, chance comments by friends, timely schedule conflicts. My feelings wavered back and forth. Still, I waited. I didn’t yet feel clarity.

Another day rolled by, and more evidence piled up until it felt like a natural flow for me to make each decision. Within that flow I was able to lovingly communicate my decisions. I was relieved that the outcomes were loving responses from those with whom I communicated.

Taking the path of Grace doesn’t necessarily mean that every decision you make is going to result in all beings being happy with you. What it does mean is that you make your decisions guided by trust in God/Spirit/Higher Self. It means you are making your decisions from a place of love rather than fear.

Love expressed through an open heart, clears the path for more love.

Communicating from a place of love allows those with whom you communicate to respond on that same wavelength, even if what you are communicating is not necessarily what they want to hear. What they respond to is the love beneath what you are saying, and the open heart with which you are saying it.

When you make your decisions on the path of Grace you make your decisions guided by the bigger picture even if you can’t see what that is. You release the assumptions of your small self and trust in the guidance of your Higher Self.
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Trust allows you to communicate with love and an open heart. Trust allows you to walk upon the smoothed and flowing path of Grace. 

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Your Spiritual Toolbox

When a difficult decision comes up, one in which you are fearful about the outcome, ask your Spiritual Support Team, your Higher Self/God/Source for guidance.

It is as simple as that and that is all you need to do.

“Please show me the path of Grace in this situation.”

Take a deep breath and mentally hand the situation over to your Source. Relax into that allowing.

Now let it go. You will be guided.

You may encounter synchronistic hints along the way, a song on the radio, a glance at a headline in the newspaper, a comment from a friend, a lecture topic, the perfect passage in a book you are reading, or you may have a pertinent dream. There are any number of ways that guidance may come to you.

After a time, you will feel clarity and know what your decision is.

If you still don’t  feel clear about your decision, ask to be given clarity about your situation.

“Please give me clarity about this decision.”

Ask for what you need.  Always ask.

Trust and allow yourself to receive.