Why It's Important to Keep Your Promises to Yourself

“When your inner child feels secure with you and you mend that relationship, you mend that connection with intimacy, love, respect, trust, and speaking the truth with each other. When that occurs your whole life shifts.”
-Red Feather
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Red Feather looked at me through Maitreya Zohar’s eyes, at the channeled group I attended recently. He asked me,

“Holly, where in your life are you not keeping your commitments to yourself?”

I thought about it. I had several choices. I gave my answer, avoiding the obvious choice. I wasn’t ready to face that one publicly yet.

I’m ready to face it now.

Several years ago, I lost twenty-five pounds using EFT, tapping on the statement, “I choose to eat only when I’m hungry, and stop when I’m a little bit full.” I made healthy food choices, exercised and did whatever else I felt inspired to do at the time.

I enjoyed the changes in my body throughout the whole process. I felt proud of my accomplishment. It felt wonderful to follow-through with my choice to lose weight.

Over this past year or so, I’ve gained thirteen of those pounds back and I’ve felt frustrated and angry with myself. Clearly, I hit my upper limit for feeling good about myself. Read more about upper limits in the post, “Is Bliss Too Scary?”

My commitment to myself was to lose the weight and keep it off. I have not kept that commitment. At least, not yet.

I happened upon a YouTube video of Esther Hicks channeling Abraham and discussing weight loss. Abraham spoke of keeping your promise to yourself to take the actions that make you feel that you are doing the right thing for your body.

Because you feel better as a result of taking these actions you raise your vibration. This allows ideas, guidance and inspiration to flow. You put yourself in a place where you can receive what you need to manifest what you want in your life.

The key is keeping your commitment to yourself by consistently doing the actions you have chosen to do.

Why is keeping your promises to yourself so important? Who’s to know but you?

And that is the crux of the matter – you know.

When you keep the promises you make to yourself, you learn to trust yourself. When you know you can trust yourself, you can feel good about yourself.

“I will do this for myself.” And you do it. “I choose to take care of myself in this way.” And you do. “I choose these actions to support myself.” And you follow through, doing those actions.

Trust builds up over time. The more that you can trust yourself, the safer you feel within and the better you feel about yourself. The better you feel about yourself, the higher your energetic vibration and the more you open yourself to guidance, inspiration and ease of creating what you want in your life.

How do we first learn trust? We learn from the adults in our lives when we were children.

When you make a promise to a young child it is important to follow through on that commitment. For example, when I tell my grandchildren that I will take them to their favorite playground today, I do my utmost to follow through on that promise. If for some reason I cannot, I explain why and then make sure that we go to the playground as soon as possible.
Why is that so important? They will play happily wherever they are. Does it really matter if we go to the promised playground?

Yes, because it is about keeping commitments, not about the playground.

When I keep my promises to my grandchildren, they learn that when I say I will do something I do it. Through that modeling, they learn responsible behavior. They learn that commitments made, matter. They can feel safe in this knowledge. They learn that promises made to them are important, because of this, they learn that they are important. They learn self-worth by the adults in their lives following through on promises made.

It is the same when we make a promise to ourselves. For who are we really making that promise too? Our inner child. Our inner child needs to know that we will follow through on promises made. In this way our inner child can feel safe. She can feel that she matters. She can know that she is worthy.  She gains in self-respect.

Speaking the truth with your inner child is all about keeping commitments made. You say you are going to do something and you do it.

When you offer yourself that level of commitment each day, you build trust and self-worth each day. One day at a time, as Red Feather says, “your whole life shifts.”

Photo by Gesina Kunkel on Unsplash

Your Spiritual Toolbox

Today, start small with one specific action.

Make a commitment to yourself to do something positive for yourself today.

It could be twenty minutes of walking or stretching. It could be eating five servings of fruit and vegetables. It could be ten minutes of meditation. It could be fifteen minutes of gratitude journaling, or whatever else you like.

Whatever you choose, make your commitment out loud.
“Today, I choose to………..”

Now follow through. This commitment to yourself is top priority today.

As you do this one day at a time, day after day. You build trust in yourself. As you build trust in yourself, you build self-esteem. As you build self-esteem, your raise your vibration. As you raise your vibration, your whole life shifts.

BTW, I’m working this with you today and saying it out loud, “Today, I choose to eat only…” And this time I'm going to keep my promise to myself.