Give Yourself the Gift of Forgiveness

“You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind. You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you. It doesn’t matter what others did to you, you are going to forgive them because you don’t want to feel sick all the time. Forgiveness is for your own mental healing. You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself. Forgiveness is an act of self-love.”

- Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love- A Toltec Wisdom Book

Forgiveness is a gift, not just for those you forgive but for yourself. When you feel continuing anger, hatred, fear or any negative emotion for another person, even when it feels justified, it ties you to that person. It creates an energetic cord that binds you together, rather like a sticky, energetic web running from your solar plexus to theirs. The longer you have felt this way, the more negative thoughts you have thought about this person, the more energy you have invested in those negative feelings, the thicker and stronger the web, the more firmly you are bound to this person. What’s more, the cord stretching between you feeds that negativity right back to you.

Who wants that? Wouldn’t you rather be free of all that negativity? Gift yourself with forgiveness. In today’s Spiritual Toolbox is a simple visualization that can support you to free yourself through forgiveness.

If the negativity you have felt is deep-seated, meaning the negative thoughts keep returning and reattaching the cord, you may need additional support. Negative thought pathways can be more like highways than paths, if so, you may choose to bring in additional tools to support you in the forgiveness process.*

There are many available on-line if you search on “Tools for Forgiveness.” Also, check out our Resources page for the technique of Faster EFT-V, which can support you to release negative emotions and allow the process of forgiveness.

"Love is not a quantity it is a flow. When you allow love to flow through you, you are then in a place of love for self, then the choices you make are with compassion for yourself and what you create outside of yourself.  There is no need to do the push/pull. It doesn’t become a trade. There are no disappointments. When we are truly in a place of love and forgiveness we are in a continuous energy spiraling and evolving upward."

-Red Feather


​*We want to remind you to seek out professional support if your emotions feel too much to handle on your own.  

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Your Spiritual Toolbox

​Sit or lie down comfortably. Invite your higher self and your spiritual support team to support you in this exercise.

Breathe deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth, focusing your attention on the air moving in and out. Keep breathing and focusing until you feel deeply relaxed.

Now think of the name of the person you choose to release and forgive. Imagine a long cord stretching from your solar plexus (or any other part of your body that feels right) and attaching to the solar plexus of the person you want to forgive. 

Next, imagine you are holding a large pair of scissors in your hand. Cut the cord just where it emerges from your solar plexus. See the cord trailing away from you and dissolving. 

If the scissors do not feel like a strong enough image, invite Archangel Michael to support you with his sword in cutting the cord.

Now, imagine the person surrounded with healing, white light and release them into that light. Internally say, “I forgive. I release. I forgive.” Send them love if that feels right to you.

See yourself surrounded with healing, white light. Internally say, “I forgive. I am free. I forgive.”

Sit quietly and open yourself to allow anyone else to step forward for forgiveness. You may be surprised by who shows up. If a person comes to mind go through the forgiveness visualization for that person.  Keep doing this until you feel peaceful and complete.

Thank yourself, your higher self, and your spiritual support team for this gift of forgiveness.